When things are attacking our peace… We really have two choices, let it stay connected to us and our thoughts or detach it…
What is your IT? It refers to anything that compromises your inner peace and weighs you down unnecessarily or poses as an impediment to your personal and spiritual growth. Simply put, if there is anything you are allowing into your life, thoughts, and heart that adversely affects your peace, then DETACH IT FROM YOUR LIFE!
Guard your heart! If that means deleting someone from your circle, your Social Media page, your church row, or contact list, then do it.. It doesn’t mean you are bitter, it means you value your peace more. Are posts getting you upset? Delete the ones who post them.. And no you don’t have to announce you are doing it in a status. Is there someone always coming to you with gossip or hate? Don’t entertain that foolishness, remove yourself from the situation. Tell them you don’t really care about frivolous things. You should pray for them, but you don’t have to allow the behavior of others to destroy your inner peace. Ever. You can’t be getting frustrated by someone who is over there not worrying about you. I can’t speak for everyone else, but I don’t have the time or the energy to let it consume my thoughts, and you shouldn’t either.
Rebuke ignorance! Is there someone always posting subliminal statuses? Don’t let it bother you. Hide their posts or delete them if need be. Is a co-worker always coming to you with their negative Nancy ways? Nope, don’t let that be fed into your spirit. Someone always have something negative to say on your groupme or group chat? Then, get off.
No, it’s not being rude; it’s protecting your peace. Now you may say, “Well why don’t you just not read it or let it bother you?” That’s cool too, do what works for you. But more times than not, it will eventually get to you again. It’s like telling someone not to think about a blue rabbit, well, what did you think about? Yep, that rabbit. “Letting it go” is easier said than done, especially when it’s always in your face, and you are back to square one. If someone is constantly being petty and you don’t like it… then don’t put up with it. If it takes a text to let them know, then send it. You can still be a good person with a kind heart and still say NO. Get rid of that mess. It’s not going to stop, just because you want it to, be deliberate about setting yourself up for peace.
Quick story — I was friends with an old classmate on facebook. All of their posts were sooo annoying. Literally every other status was complaining about something. I often found myself saying.. “Geez, all they do is complain”.. “Ugh here they are again complaining”.. I don’t know about you, but I didn’t need that in my spirit. Why? Because what if I was having a not so good day and I read that status? I may’ve started to complain myself, knowing full well, I had nothing to complain about. So, I had to think, why I am even letting this bother me. Yep, unfriend.. Misery loves company, and I wasn’t trying to stay around that. It’s no love loss, but I have to protect my peace. I just don’t have time for it.
Remember, we are not responsible for what people say, text, do, post or share. But if WE find ourselves allowing it to bother us, then it’s our fault for allowing it to continue. Protect your peace, protect your standards, protect your home, protect your children, protect your relationships, and protect and guard your heart. You have a right to protect it all!
“It is your sole responsibility to protect your peace of mind at all times. Don’t allow miserable people to steal your joy. Many of them hate to see others happy and doing well. A lot of them will hate you just for the fact that you refuse to be placed in the shackles of misery with them.”